Alien Hive

Whee... Recently I had been quite occupied with this game called Alien Hive. It's an addictive and brain draining game. One wrong move, and your whole strategy will go kaputt..

What is even more exciting is that, this is a game developed locally, Appxplore Sdn Bhd, impressive. Love the graphics, great background music.

One of my highest score, three aliens formed in a game. Working hard to get more. ^^

An Improvement in Our Future Relationship

Had this mind tickling talk about relationships with a friend of mine over dinner, mostly on how a female tends to revolve their world around their boyfriends.

Some scenarios as the girl played out:

1. Dinner. It's a regular weekday, and a girl friend calls you out for dinner. And, I as the girl, who had nothing much to do after work today would probably say yes. Then, when I am about to finish work and preparing myself for the dinner, my boyfriend texted me, asking whether would I like to have dinner with him.

So, what am I suppose to do?

Option A:

Being a loving girl friend, I would surely tell my boyfriend ya, we can have dinner tonight. And then I would call my friend saying that my boyfriend asked me out for dinner and it's been a week since I last saw him, so maybe we can have dinner some other time?

Option B:

I would ask my boyfriend what time would he be free for dinner. And if the time is late and I would be able to attend both dinner, I would have two dinners for the night. However, for this, during the dinner with my girl friend, I would be rushing and all, not wanting to be late.

Option C:

I would call off my boyfriend, telling him that I have a dinner date with my girlfriend.


It's pretty obvious that most of us have a higher tendency of picking Option A and B, Option C would be at the back of our heads.

However, if we swap the scenario, ie. your boyfriend is going to have dinner with his friends, and you called him up for dinner, what kind of response will you get? Most probably is that he would tell you up front that he is going out with the guys and it will be late. The second possibility would be he would tell you that he is going out with the guys, and I could join them if I want to. And the least possible one, he would call off the dinner with his friend and join you for dinner.

What do we see from this? The priority is a total inverse of one another. Girls do tend to give their boyfriends full priority.


2. Gym. Assuming that I am a gym kind of person, I like going to the gym on, and especially love going to the gym on Saturday morning. However, my boyfriend likes hanging out on Friday nights, having dinners with friends, catching up and chilling at a bar till late. He said you to join him on Friday nights, as that's what he loves doing. He would say that I can go for gym on the weekdays or some other days.

So?

Option A:

I will go out with him, hang out with him till late, enjoy the night and have fun, his way. I mean, in a way, I get to be with him. In the next morning, I won't be able to get up early for my favorite pass time, gym, ie. giving up things that I like doing.

Option B:

I will hang out with him and still wake up in the morning with the hang over and all to make my way to the gym.

Option C:

I will tell him no, as I feel like going to the gym on Saturday morning and I don't want to miss it.

Ok, this one is pretty obvious, written in priority order, the last one being most unlikely. However, let's say we turn the coin around, I'm the one who like Friday nights, and he is the one who likes Saturday mornings. I am pretty sure the priority order will be the other way round.

We did talked about many more other scenarios, like the one where he did not reply to your texts and you got all thinking what is he doing, why is he not replying to my texts, is he angry with me. But the other way round, guys don't think that way.

We look back to the time when this relationship had not even exist, as a girl, you would have a life that you enjoyed, hanging out with your girl friends, going shopping, karaoke, movies. But once you are in a relationship, do you notice that you don't really do all these as often anymore, some even non. Why? Our mentality will revolve around the guy, when friends ask you out, you will start making excuses to refuse them just because you want to make time for your boyfriend, or in case he has time for you. One of the most absurd reason, I am scare my boyfriend will be angry of me, or he won't be happy if I were to go out so often.

For a guy, once they got in a relationship, life just goes on like business as usual. He will still go out watching football with his pals, hanging out, chilling with friends and all. And their best move, the moment that they actually starts spending time with you, they make it sound like they made so much sacrifices and all just to be with you, but in actual fact he was just so happen free and his friends were occupied, or there's this movie his buddies had watched.

I might be wrong in the statements made above, or you may even say I am bias, well, I'm sorry, I'm a girl. But most of them are true, for me. There is this imbalance in priority in our relationships, and my personal opinion is that this may cause the failure of a relationship.

Imagine this, before the relationship, you as a girl, had a life, you are cheerful, had friends around, you did crazy things and all. You had a life and you are an interesting and fun person to be with. But once you walked into a relationship, things changed, you don't hang out with friends that often, you don't do as much things as you usually do. You only have your close friends, your family, your work and your boyfriend. This is when things will start to get crucial. You are not the same person as you were before the relationship anymore, the person the guy fell for. And right now, I won't blame him.

So, as stated in FRM Part I: Foundation of Risk Management, the problem had been identified and assessed. The next step would be to treat the risk, which would be another dinner on another night. But for a guide, we have to make moderate decisions, indifferent from how we treat our close friends, well, maybe a little different, but just not too much.

We must be able to be ourselves, live our lives, just the way we did before we jumped into this relationship, future relationship.

The Year 2013

Finally I have the time to write, slightly have the time I would say.

The year 2013, an exciting year for me. As after 2013 end, there might just be a huge change awaiting me in 2014.

Back to 2013, a year fully planned. Some things I would like to achieve this year, and praying hard for all the blessings to make it work out.

1. Complete my FRM Part I and II
2. Apply for Korea University PhD and hopefully gets it
3. Travel to Japan, Bali, Taiwan
4. Give more to Rotaract, to the community
5. Continue on running, hopefully attend an international run
6. Perform in my work
7. Change in environment, lifestyle towards the end of the year

And to start 2014, hopefully I could spend one month traveling around New Zealand, before heading to Korea. (*fingers crossed*)

So, it's nothing too fancy, just some things I would really like to achieve in my life, and this seems to be the stage to make them happen. ^^

Books from Mitch Albom

Recently just finished reading Time Keeper by Mitch Albom, finish reading it on the day the Mayans predicted the world to end, 21 December 2012. The surrounding settings fit the book well as it is about to be Christmas and doomsday is nearing. I had always enjoyed Mitch's writing, there are all very inspiring in their own ways.

The Time Keeper, a story about father time, how he started counting time and his exploration around earth to know more about time. Father time shared his insight with two humans who are about to die, one wanting more time, one wanting less, and forgetting the ones who loved us the most around us, living the moment. It was a great read, I could barely take my hands off them till I finished the book.

There are other books by Mitch that I had read.

The first book I read was Five People You Meet in Heaven. It's a story about a guy called Eddie. Eddie is someone who is like anyone of us, with regrets in life, with all the what if's in mind., with dreams we wish to achieve yet things just swift to a different path. Working as maintenance in an amusement park for most of his life, he past away due to an accident in the park. In heaven, he met five people whom he knew and did not knew when he was alive. But everyone of them was there to explain about why did things in his life turned out the way it is. It's a moment where finally everything starts to make sense. Eddie starts to understand, starts to let go, starts to forgive. Mitch made heaven to be a place where you look back into your life and join the puzzles up.

The next book I read was For One More Day. A story of a former baseball player who had so much problems in his life, failure in marriage, his career, his financials and his family. He came to a decision to take his own life, and in his attempt he seemed to had failed, and he saw his mother, who had past away for some time. This baseball player gets another day with his mother, went back to his old family home. He got to learn about the reasons of why he had a troubled childhood and through this, his mother assists him in resolving his issues and getting his life back on track.

Tuesdays with Morrie is about Mitch meeting back his professor from university, who is dying from a fatal disease. Morrie knows he is dying and he is running out of time, but he choose to be happy even though he is suffering through this disease. Morrie shared his views and knowledge with Mitch, including family, love and things about how he view our society.

Have a Little Faith, a book I find very spiritual and very close to the heart. This book gives a small exposure on Jew traditions and believes. Mitch talks about a favor his rabbi, Albert Lewis asked of him, to do his eulogy. He decides to get to know more about his rabbi so that he could perform it properly. He shares about the insight of his rabbi, and he questions for the opinion of his rabbi about the religion, about life and about death. On the other hand, Mitch also writes about Christian along with the story of his rabbi. He writes about the life of Pastor Henry, and how he helped the people. A great book on faith, a touching one, teared while reading the eulogy he did for his rabbi.

Hope to have more books from Mitch, he is really a writer of the soul. ^^

New Members to the Apple Family

Trying to recall, the very first apple product that I had. I can't really remember whether was it the iPod Touch or the MacBook, but I am certain that it was bought during my degree final year, which is like 2009.

Well, regardless, the members of the Apple family just grew by more, in fact, two more.

1) iPad

I had been struggling on whether should I get it, I mean, it's not cheap and I was trying to reason things out with myself on why do I not need it. It all started when the New iPad was launched, and people around me are having this thing going on where it seem to be a contagious virus. So throughout the year I held my horses by saying that I am using an iPhone and I can perform most of the task through my phone, right? This was all changed after my trip to Tasmania.

This friend of mine, Ian, who had been using his iPad for like ever. Throughout the trip, he brought his iPad along and showed me how convenient is it. So, this is where is all started, it hooked. So once I got back to Malaysia, and this colleague of mine, Jun, who told me take she got her very own iPad, I am like hell, let's get an iPad.

So there comes the new member of the Apple family. But, hey, there's more.

2) iPhone 5

So, as I did mention, I am an iPhone user. To back track, my very first iPhone was a 3GS, a nice white one with those curvy edge. Then it was the iPhone 4S, which was with me for 1 year.

So here come the whole story. It was my convocation for my master, and I shared this joy which both of my loving parents. As usual, graduates will all be happy, with their bouquet of flowers, walking around catching up with friend and taking photos. There was too much stuff in my hands, hence I asked my dad to help me out for a bit with some of the stuff. And this is when it all happens. My beloved iPhone 4S fell, real hard on the concrete tar road and landed on the steal cap of the drain, thank god it did not fell through. As I picked my phone up, there was no crack on the screen, however there was a dent on the edges. This was not the worst thing. My phone seemed to be dead. OMG.. No matter which button I was to press, the phone just refuse to react, the screen was not lite up. Instantly, my heart cracked. Of course, later on the phone did went back online after the forced reboot.

So how did the iPhone 5 come about? After that incident, my dad made this promise that he will get me a new phone to replace this one, so tadaa~~ I have my iPhone 5 now.

I am happy with the two Apple products that I am using on a daily basis. Hoping in future, Apple will come out with more innovative and creative products as this Apple fan will always be there to support them.

Instagram

I am having fun uploading pictures on Instagram. And the new update makes it so much more fun. ^^

I'm actually trying out the badge function.. Hehehe.. Don't you love these small little surprises which comes knocking at you door from time to time..?


 

A Note to the Heart

A note, from a time long ago..

我们的开始叫人意外

从未想过你对我有爱

你的坦白令我开怀

但她却早已存在

想要毫无保留的去爱

但却不能无情的离开

内疚对你的伤害

想要公平的对待

所以选择放开 

你我无法释怀这份爱

心里还有你

但却不能告诉你

心里还爱你

却没资格留住你

想再次用力地爱

属于我的心早已不在

只希望你不再受伤害

等到属于你的爱

"完美的时机让爱凝聚，错误的决定让爱散去"